Stack has a new code of conduct that is supposed to make the site more kind, but the examples of bad behavior seem to suggest we should treat moderators with kids gloves even as they abuse their power:
Instead of saying: “If you bothered to read my question, you’d know it’s not a duplicate.”
you are supposed to say: “I don’t think this is a duplicate. My question is about cement board, while the question you linked is about drywall.”
Instead of saying: “I came to get help, not to get my question edited.”
You are supposed to say: “Thanks for trying to help, but your edit isn’t what I meant. I’ve removed your edit, and have updated my question so it’s clearer.”
What the powers that be at Stack fail to realize is that their aggressive and invasive moderation system is the root cause of most of the conflict there. Are they really concerned about the feelings of the moderators when they get pushback on their moderation, or is the site management itself defensive about it’s own rules?